Evolution Buddy
Network
Free healing, for life. Each month you're paired with a new Havening buddy somewhere in the world. You give one session. You receive one.
Each month you'll be paired with someone new to learn and connect with. There's no commitment, and you'll be paired with a new person the following month.
8 minutes with Kamaia on what this is and why it exists
From swap to evolution buddy
The swap
A new buddy every month. You learn from different people, different styles, different time zones. No pressure to click with everyone.
The buddy
Along the way you may find someone who makes healing feel light and empowering. This is what we call an evolution buddy: someone you hold and support through the rollercoaster ride of life.
Keep going, your way
If you find your buddy and would like to continue sessions, you can arrange them independently. Stay in the monthly swap too, or step out of it. Just let us know.
Where this came from
"The evolution buddy idea came from experiencing the magic of Havening on my PTSD, and wanting to see what else I could release. In 2020 I met Megan. We started monthly sessions and now it's weekly. She's been through all seasons and traumas with me."Kamaia Pere, Havening Trainer & Group Organiser
- Abortion trauma
- Leaving medical career
- Breakups
- Hospital trauma
- Abandonment and rejection wounds
- Imposter syndrome
- Racism
- + more
This is what we wanted to create for youa space to feel held and supported.
Every month, free support for life
Session received
60 to 75 minutes where you're in the driver's seat. Your buddy holds the space and follows your lead.
Session given
You get to be the co-pilot, not the expert. Most members say this teaches them as much as receiving does.
People supporting you
If your buddy can't make it, post in the WhatsApp group and someone steps in. No one is left on their own.
How the rhythm flows
New pairs are posted in the WhatsApp group.
A quick two-minute check-in form.
One session given, one received.
Voices from the group
Shared by members in our Buddy Network. Names anonymised for privacy.
"It was not what I expected, but it was exactly what I needed. She said I was the first person who held such long silences without trying to fill them, giving emotions the space and time they needed to emerge. It reminded me why I do this work."
Member · holding space"I feel so much lighter, as if a heavy cloud that has been hovering over me for a long time is gone. From feeling stuck to now a greater sense of strength and freedom."
Member · receiving"Feeling great after our session! I have even been back to that moment and do not feel any other emotions attached to it. Nothing has triggered it since."
Member · receivingRead 7 more voices
"I just bloody love it. What an opportunity to support each other."
Member · check-in"It helped me to get clear around a stuck point in my life. Thank you for the safe space and the gentle container."
Member · receiving"Getting to the real cause of my anxiety… thank you for helping me find my safe place where I can support myself to shine."
Member · receiving"I feel more open, with a renewed enthusiasm to move forward with what we worked on. So grateful for our buddy swap network."
Member · receiving"Positive benefits on a personal level, being supported and meeting lovely people with common interests, and from a practitioner level, always learning from every experience."
Member · check-in"You have created something very special with buddying… if I had to rate it out of 5 stars I'd give it 10."
Member · WhatsApp group"Thank you for the way you held space for me. I'm still moved with what came up. What a wonderful gift to give each other."
Member · receivingThe difference it makes
From our launch call and the first two monthly check-in forms.
Why people joined
Founding members' intake answers, May 2026How it felt to receive
Check-in forms, June and July 2026 · 13 answers · select all that applyWhat shows up in sessions
Havening is the shared foundation in every session. Whatever else you bring is welcome.
Ready to join a network of evolution buddies and heal?
Referred by your trainer, found us in the Havening Facebook group, or heard from a friend? You're in the right place. See if this feels right for you.
Your next steps
Watch the welcome
8 minutes, so you know what you're saying yes to.
Fill in the intake form
About five minutes. Your training, your time zone, and the group agreements.
Get your WhatsApp invite
It arrives by email once your form is in, so make sure you have WhatsApp. You'll be paired from the next 1st of the month.
Holding space without fixing
Many of us come from helping and "fixer" backgrounds. Members tell us the growth edge here is learning to step back, sit in silence, and let the person receiving steer. That's the point, and we learn it together.
- The person receiving drives the session and holds responsibility for it.
- The person holding is a compassionate co-pilot, not the expert.
- Open questions and reflecting back, instead of advice or directing.
- If power dynamics show up, we make space to talk about them and how to keep you feeling safe and supported.
- Celebrate the wins too. Clearing the old stuff makes room for that.
Before you join
Do I have to join every month?
No. We encourage you to put yourself and your needs first. If it's a busy month, you're on holiday or something unexpected pops up, that's okay. Just let us know. If you need support but don't have the capacity to hold space for someone else, reach out to Kamaia. We can also offer a session to support and hold space for you.
I've just started my Havening training and I'm nervous. Can I join?
Absolutely. We created this space for what we wished we'd had when we started our own Havening journey: support, time to heal our own trauma so we can hold more compassion for others, and a chance to learn from different Havening styles and modalities. Come as you are, and learn along the way. There are no hierarchies here.
Do I have to work on my own healing?
Yes, this is the heart of it. Many of us came to Havening to help clients, friends and family, and forgot ourselves in the mix. The more we clear what we bring to the table, the more we give others permission to do the same. Here, the professional hat comes off and we show up as compassionate humans.
How is safety maintained in the group?
Each month we send a short check-in form asking how your buddy swap went, how it felt to receive and hold space, and whether you're in for next month. If you felt unsupported or anything came up, you can ask Kamaia (Havening Trainer and group organiser) to reach out. We'll debrief together and find what feels right for you.
Does it cost anything?
No, it's free, and always will be. Once you've completed the official 16-hour Havening training with a certified Havening Trainer, you can be supported, held and havened for free. There's no self-promotion here, only sharing knowledge and experience.
Still have questions? Message Kamaia directly on WhatsApp.